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November 13, 2018

Time and You

Time is slow when you wait 


Time is fast when you are late


Time is deadly when you are sad or in loneliness


Time is too swift when you are in fear or in grieve 



Time is short when you are happy, in rejoice, in celebration  and in love



Time is endless when you are in pain


Time is long when are in boredom

You say there is no time when you engaged and involved into too many things



Every time, time is determined by your feelings and psychological conditions not by clock

Time is ETERNITY


So have a nice time always!!!




Article on Gender Sensitisation

Gender bias is an allude to the social preference for one sex or gender over the other. The reason for the gender bias/gender injustice/violence are sometime conscious practices the remaining are unconscious. There is no association between gender and how good or bad a person is, person’s characteristics are NOT linked with sex genes. For example, there are cruel mothers and good mothers everywhere, same is applicable for fathers too. Every individual’s behavior is associated with their mindset, emotions, brought-up, attitude, nothing to do with gender in my opinion.  Women and men both need to be represented across the lines equal. Only then the life will go forward. We make each other better. Diversity also key. Women all over the world must feel that, their voice is heard always both in the family circumstances and in the workplace (society as a whole as well).  

In a neutral ground both male and female both are of them belongs to the same race. Both male and female, they differ to some extent of biological and psychological features, but both of highly dependent on each other in the social eco system. 

Gender sensitization is one of the need of the hour in academics, in order to nature our students to sensitize and be aware of gender biases, issues, social and personal causes that are to defended by a human. Various means to overcome the gender biases in the family circumstances, workplace and as whole in the society are given as a nutshell in this article. 
I believe that this article might be useful for academicians to drive their lecture sessions and seminars. It covers, vocabularies related to gender biases, law and order, gender inequality, cause for the biases, different perspectives, case studies and best practices to eradicate the basis. 

To start with we need to be familiar with few terminologies Sex, Gender, Feminine, Masculine, Feminism, Men’s Rights Activist (MRA), Manscrimination, Egalitarian. You may click here to know more Gender Sensitisation - Right Vocabulary & Gender.

Egalitarianism - Egalitarian


To have a good beginning, I am presenting with an important philosophy 'called 'Egalitarianism' to build a better nation with an equality.

     

Egalitarianism is the doctrine of the equality of mankind and the desirability of politics, economic and social equality.  

Egalitarian - A person who believes in the equality of all people.
Egality or Egalité - Social and political equality- It represents an extreme levelling of society. 

Gender Symbol
Gender symbols intertwined. The red (left) is the female Venus symbol. The blue (right) represents the male Mars symbol.


Gender Fluidity
• Gender queer (Surprising) people may identify as either having an overlap of, or indefinite lines between, gender identity;
• Having two or more genders (being bigender, trigender, or pangender);
• Having no gender (being agenda, non-gendered, genderless, gender free or neutrois);
• Moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender or being third gender or other-gendered, 
• A category which includes those who do not place a name to their gender.

Gender Scale

Across the world in most societies, people recognizes two distinct broad classes of gender roles, masculine and feminine, that correspond with the biological sexes of male and female. When a baby is born, society allocates the child to one gender or the other, on the basis of what their genitals resemble. The third gender category people are ignored and they get isolated from family bonding’s and they form their welfare community. Are being third gender or other gendered, they are suffering with inequality in all aspects, education, politics, social recognition and economic status. In my opinion they also belong to human race, should be treated equally right from the family circumstance to societal circumstances. 


Gender Inequality
In Indian scenario, law and order is in favor of female whereas, family, societal and political approaches are favored to male. There are seven ways inequality is shown to the women in society. 7 Forms of Gender Inequality
1. Women works longer than men (number of hours both in family and in workplace put together)
2. Inequality in Employment and Earnings
3. Ownership Inequality
4. Survival Inequality
5. Gender Bias in the Distribution of Education and Health
6. Gender Inequality in Freedom of Expression
7. Gender Inequality in Respect of Violence and Victimization


Women works longer than men 
• Nearly 70% of food production is prepared by women.
• An average Indian woman spends at least 4 hours a day or 16% of their life time in the kitchen and 2-4 hours in a day for child- bearing and child rearing. 
• These are all non-market household activities.
• In addition, market-based works are done by women to supplement family income.


Inequality in Employment &

Earnings

• The conclusion that can be made is that, in both developed and developing countries, women are under-represented in better paying formal sector jobs and over-represented in the unpaid or low-paid informal sectors.
Ownership Inequality
• A Telugu proverb corroborates this understanding: “Bringing up a daughter is like watering a plant in another’s courtyard.”
• Prevents them from participating in commercial, economic and social activities
• In her earlier life, a woman comes under the influence of her father, then husband as she enters a married life, and, finally, under son’s ownership right over property is skilfully avoided.
Survival Inequality
• This ‘natality inequality’ indicates that parents want the new-born child to be a boy.
• Female infanticide even popular among the educated Indians is the sex-selective abortions to eliminate female fetuses.
• More boys than girls are born everywhere leading to a ‘deficit’ of women and a ‘surplus’ of men. 
• “Women Missing” mystery 
• People worship goddesses but exploit girls 
Gender Bias in the Distribution of Education and Health
• In recent times, despite a large increase in economic advancement in Asia and Africa, these countries lag far behind the developed countries in terms of educational attainment—particularly in respect of women’s education. 
• First, being the breadwinner, male child is considered as an ‘insurance bond’ of the family.

 Secondly, male child provides security during old age.

Gender Bias in the Distribution of Education and Health
• Thirdly, a male child is deemed to be an asset as it enables parents to gamer huge dowry/gift at the marriage time. 
• All these speak about anti-female bias. 


• During marriage of a girl, there occurs a leakage of money from the parents to give dowry to the bride.


Gender Inequality in Freedom of Expression
• In some backward poor societies the right of women giving opinion is completely denied. 
• Such un-freedoms, however, are not uncommon even among the educated elites who enjoy enormous power and authority in the male- dominated society.

Just by empowe­ring women, this social and economic barrier of gender inequality cannot be broken. This requires educating to women especially in the rural area and illiterates

Gender Inequality in Respect 
 

of Violence and Victimization

• Sex- specific abortions
• Dowry death is the most serious form of domestic violence
• Economic independence and social eman­cipation through creating ability to earn income and gainful employment outside the home, guaran­teeing ownership rights, literacy in education is of great importance. 


India’s Position in India
• Economic participation and opportunity: 134th
• Educational achievements: 126th
• Health and Life expectancy: 141st
• Political empowerment: 15th
• Due to Female Foeticide& Female Infaticide
• Child sex ratio (0 to 6 age group) Sex Ratio: 919
• Sex Ratio: 943
• Female literacy: 46%
• Maternal Mortality Rate: 178 deaths per 100000 live births

Major Causes for the Poor Rankings are,
1. Poverty
2. Illiteracy
3. Lack of Employment Facilities
4. Social Customs, Beliefs and Practices
5. Social Altitude
6. Lack of Awareness of Women
Micro Finance
  70% of the world’s poor are women, and micro finance is a powerful instrument of social change, particularly for women.
  68 percent of global micro finance customers are women 
• Studies show that women in poor rural regions are more reliable borrowers of credit than men.


Regulation & Prevention of Misuse
• Prenatal Diagnostic Techniques Act 1994 sex selective abortion is sill on the rise 
• Article 15 (Women to give them equal status in the society)
• Sati prevention Act 1987
• Dowry prohibition act 1961 to eliminate the practice of dowry (burning a specific offence punishable with maximum punishment of life imprisonment
• The special marriage act 1954  

How Feminism Helps Everyone?

National Economy Growth
In 2011-2012 (Women’s contribution in Indian economy 47% is reduced to 37%)
Reasons
• Male chauvinism
• Pregnancy & Maternity Leave
• Baby care & Elderly care
• No economy freedom
• Long travel
• Dependent on husband for decision making
• Inequality in salaries 

Remedy 
Necessary motivation to increase their curiosity level to take up job
Safe travel
Safe work environment 
Orthodox and culturally biased people suitable work nature
Gender bias free environment 

Indian Laws getting too feminist
• The Hindus Widow Remarriage Act 1856, 
• Dowry Prohibition Act 1961, 
• Prohibition of Child Marriage Act 2006, etc. 
• Were passed to advance and develop the position of women in India. Not only this, voting rights and other political rights were guaranteed to them.
• Art. 14 of the Indian Constitution speaks about Right to Equality

Indian Penal Code to penalize for the crimes against the women of India

Rape (Sec. 376 IPC)
Kidnapping and Abduction for different purposes (Sec. 363-373 IPC)
Homicide for Dowry, Dowry Deaths or their attempts (Sec. 302/304B IPC)
Torture/Cruelty – both physical and mental – (Sec.498A IPC)
Molestation (Sec. 354 IPC)
(354A-Sexual harassment, 354B- Act with intent to disrobe a woman, 354C- Voyeurism, 354D- Stalking)
Sexual Harassment/Eve-Teasing (Sec. 509 or 294 IPC)
Importation of girls up to 21 years of age (Sec. 366B IPC)
The Criminal Law (Amendment) Act, 2013 is that one major law that was passed by the Indian Parliament after the Delhi Gang Rape Case of 2012
•Further, it has been observed that only 20-30% of rape cases are reported and 75% of filed rape cases turn out to be false after trial (National Crime Records Bureau-NCRB stats).
•This implies that false number of registered rape cases is more than the genuine ones. 
•Hence, it points out to the fact that women are taking undue advantage of laws and men are being victimized as a result, for no reason in huge number of cases.
•When dealt with absolute care, feminism leads to women empowerment but when used in perverted form, it leads to gender inequality. 
•Extreme feminism is never desired for it leads to inferiority of men in the society.
•In reference to India, the laws are getting too feminist on daily basis. 

•The sole sufferer in this is the second member of mankind, i.e., men. 
•There are certain laws which are meant only for the protection of women. 
•In this scenario, men are getting sidelined and now all of them are looked with the eyes of suspicion.
For instance, it has been observed in a survey that most of the dowry, domestic violence and rape cases are filed to seek revenge for any insult, etc. or to seek money.


Manscrimination
 Discrimination Against Men
   There is a gender bias against males in certain cases. 
   A number of laws are made for the protection of female but no such laws are there for the males and this makes them the victim of the society.




Section 498A of IPC
             Section 498A of IPC allows the direct arrest of the husband or his relative, whose name has been mentioned in the complaint, without any arrest warrant or any investigation. 
             A mere complaint registered under Section 498A puts the concerned persons behind bars without any investigation. 
             Section 498A is a non-bailable offense. 
             But removing this discriminatory provision against males, the Supreme Court in its order in 2nd July 2014, stopped this automatic arrest without any warrant or investigation for a complaint registered under Section 498A of IPC.

Manscrimination

             Divorce due to women cunning or misuse of law and order
             Male sexual harassment is the rise
             Real Life Cases are so many cruelty against men is also happening in the society as well but not noticeable much in the public 

What Amounts to Cruelty Against Men?

Humiliating the husband in presence of family members or friends and lowering his reputation by use of derogatory remarks

Undertaking termination of pregnancy without the consent of husband,

Making of false allegations against the husband,

Making of unsubstantiated allegations against the husband for having illicit relations with another woman,

False allegations of adultery,

Tearing of garland on the day of marriage,

Allegations against husband of having girlfriend, not proved,

Wife leading an immoral life and having illicit relations with a person other than her husband,

 Denial for physical relationship without sufficient reasons,

Refusal of contribution in the household work.

Harassing the husband for constant demand of money for settlement of her paternal family members;

Constant sending of money to her paternal family members of which the husband has no knowledge or without his permission;

Continuing illicit relations with her pre-marital boyfriend or developing extra marital relations at her workplace or in neighbourhood;

Showcase of aggressive and uncontrollable behaviour;

Demonstration of inhuman treatment towards her in-laws or addressing them with filthy words or loud voice coupled with the intention to create scene of public humiliation, intimidating or terrorizing them;

Habitual dishonesty towards husband and in-laws in matters where the latter have the right to be informed about in order to uphold family’s good name;

Demand for transfer of proprietary rights in her name;

Attempts for alienating the husband from his parents and relatives persuading him to abandon his old and aged parents;

Visiting her parent’s home frequently without appropriate reasons along with the children born out their wedlock and thus denying the husband access from his offspring’s;

Misrepresentation of facts and information of the crimes committed against her;

 Defaming her in-laws in the neighborhood by spreading false stories of harassment;

Dictating her husband and excessive involvement in his personal and professional life;

Concealment or suppression of material facts in relation to her medical conditions which if revealed may result in negating her marriage;

Wife’s parents being cynically manipulative, misrepresenting and frequently changing their stands and opinions in order to utilize every opportunity to embarrass her husband and relatives;

Opposition to every suggestion made by the husband for settling a dispute related to restitution of conjugal rights;

Misrepresentation of her financial condition for extracting more money;

Denial of normal courtesy and respect to husband by wife’s relatives.

Language & Gender



Female
Man
Woman
Prince
Princess
Author
Authoress
Manager
Manageress
God
Goddess
Mayor
Mayoress
Male
Female
Man
Woman
Prince
Princess
Author
Authoress
Manager
Manageress
God
Goddess
Mayor
Mayoress





Gender Differences in Language Style & Vocabulary Usage

             Biological & Environmental influences
             Neurological Development
             Role Models
             Life experiences


Gender Differences 
(George Keith & John Stuttleworth)



FemaleFeFemale

Female
Talk More
Talks too much
More polite
More co-operate
Nagging
Complaints
Support each other
Ask more questions
Hesitant
Indecisive
Female use eye contact


Male
Speak with more authority
Avoids eye contact
Don’t’ talk about emotions
Swear More
Talks about women & machine in the same way
Talk about sports more
Gives more commands
Competitive in conversation
Insult each other frequently



 Instead of using ‘Chairman’ if it is Chairperson (Gender Neutral)
  Gentleman
  Chair person

Genetic Imprint

   Mona Charen, American columnist and political analyst,
  Wrote in her column, ‘Gender fluidity’ is nothing more than fantasy, 
  “Maleness or femaleness is imprinted on every cell, influences every muscle and fiber, affects every body system, and colors every thought.”


Gender Sensitization Begins…
At Home

   It’s a time to change the mindset
A recent survey highlighted the fact that when young school boys were asked who should sacrifice the meal in case it fell short on the table, most replied the mother as the first choice, followed by the sister. 
So who is responsible for a male holding the view that the first person to sacrifice a meal should be the mother and followed by the sister, as the second choice? 
Why male members are served meal first, in many homes, and the female members forced to eat what’s left?  

 This is where the first step to being a progressive citizen begins. There can be no better place for moral and ethical education than home and the best student for the same is a child, for he or she is completely open to learning what is taught and practiced at home.
• This has to be backed by all schools to ensure that every decision and action taken in the school ensures gender parity and mutual respect between the male and female student.


Child Care
  How Today’s Toys May Be Harming Your Child
 Explicit bias refers to intentional, consciously articulated beliefs that result in discriminatory attitudes and behaviors toward others

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Simultaneous Polysubstance Use
 Overall, a high level of religion/spirituality was associated with lower odds of Simultaneous Polysubstance Use SPU.
 Gender differences in this association were evident, whereas women with even a medium level of religion/spirituality had significantly decreased odds of SPU. 
 Future drug prevention and interventions should consider the relevance of religion/spirituality in SPU.

“Google Images” Is Reinforcing Gender Stereotypes In The Workplace
  It turns out that there's a noticeable gender bias in the image search results for some jobs, according to a new study by researchers at the University of Washington and the University of Maryland. 
 This underrepresentation of women in image search results actually affects people's ideas about professional gender ratios in the real world, the study found.


Type in Google – CEO
Percentage of women in top 100 Google image search results for CEO: 11%
Percentage of U.S. CEOs who are women: 27%

Type in Google – Telemaketers
Percentage of women in the top 100 Google image search results for telemarketers: 64%
Percentage of U.S. telemarketers who are women: 50%

Type in Google - Construction Worker
Google image search results for “construction worker”

Feedback

   Of course, none of this is exactly Google's fault. Google is a reflection of what's on the Internet. You can also see similar search results on Yahoo and Bing.
•  But the researchers suggested that search engine designers could actually use these study results to develop algorithms that would help work against gender stereotypes. 

Osho’s View
   Most of the differences between men and women are because of thousands of years of conditioning.
   Reducing her to a secondary citizen of the world. And the reason for that was that he is muscularly more powerful.

References



Equality at Workplace

In the workplace an employee need to be assessed based on their “Passion, Mission, Skill Set, Commitment, Loyalty and Work Perfection etc.” Naturally equality will exist and survive. 








Best Practices to Bring Harmonious Society 
  A good example of early education on gender parity is the ‘Kibbutz’ in Israel. 
  These are communes where all children are brought up through collective parenting. 
  While the concept of ‘Kibbutz’may not be relevant to India, the approach to ‘gender parity’ right from childhood is what India must learn and adopt.

 Fixed mindset & Growth mindset

    Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck proposes that these two mindsets shapes our life
 A “fixed mindset” assumes that our character, intelligence, and creative ability are static givens which we can’t change in any meaningful way


  A “growth mindset” assumes that our character, intelligence and creativity are a springboard for growth and for stretching our existing abilities








Humanity, Social Justice, Social Spirituality, Peace, Love, Respect, Faith and Good Belief, Ethical and Moral Values are need to inculcated in every human being across the globe to build a harmonious society. 



Exercise 1

  Pretend to be the opposite sex than you are and write a short message to your boy/girlfriend using female/male language
  Explain what makes your message like a men or women

Case Studies
 Barriers and Biases: A case study of women’s  experiences of  underrepresentation  at senior  management levels.
  Sexual Harassment: what employers should do?
  How to deal with Workspace – Gender discrimination being an employee?
 Micro-insults that harm women’s careers- How to deal with that situation?
 Who Pays for White-Collar Crime?
 What will it take to achieve gender equality in leadership?
 Why does having more women in leadership positions make for more successful companies?
 Men Want Powerful Jobs More Than Women Do – Share your views
• Who influences the way we works? – women or Men Leadership
 An Outside-Inside Evolution in Gender and Professional Work
 Gender and Competition: What Companies Need to Know
 How Female Stars Succeed in New Jobs?
 Gender in Job Negotiations: A Two-Level Game – Share your views
 Women Leaders and Organizational Change – Compile
 Secrets of the Successful Businesswoman
 Gender in Job Negotiations: A Two-Level Game – Share your views
 Women Leaders and Organizational Change – Compile
 Secrets of the Successful Businesswoman
 Influence of Women/Men faculty in Higher Education
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Venture Investors Prefer Funding Handsome Men
 Studies by Alison Wood Brooks and colleagues reveal that investors prefer pitches from male entrepreneurs over those from female entrepreneurs, even when the content of the pitches is identical. And handsome men fare best of all.


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Time and You

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